Answers are essential, but they are not enough

January 22, 2020 5 Comments

Sometimes the problem in our modern culture is not that we have too many problems, but that we have too many solutions.

We have become so sophisticated in addressing challenges to human life and happiness that if I named you one problem facing modern culture - addiction, for instance - I could hop on the internet and immediately discover literally thousands of magazine articles, blog posts, podcasts, books, seminars, individual practitioners, and professional associations all dedicated to promoting their particular formula, method, philosophy, lifehack, product, program, or whatever…

...to help you solve the problem.

In my own life, I have sought and benefited greatly from a variety of resources.  Helpful books. Valuable seminars. Life-changing professional assistance.

But I have also come to recognize the limits of these resources.  Paradoxically, all the answers in the world don’t always add up to The Answer. 

What I need isn’t principles or policies or products or programs. I need the presence of something else in my life. Or someone.

A couple years ago, Kasia and I were hitting a rough spot in our marriage. We were not clicking, not understanding each other. And it was frustrating, because we are both very well-educated and able communicators.  Why couldn’t we connect?  

Our counselor, a PhD in Clinical psychology, as well as a devout Christian man, gave us such a great piece of advice: “books on marriage, guidelines for good communication, various forms of therapy, all that stuff...those are tools.”  

“They are essential but not enough.”

“You need to pray for divine grace.  You need God’s help to help you understand each other, to empathize, to transcend your family or origin issues and your own personal emotional and psychological baggage.”  

He was right.  And it helped so much!

I have tried to take that advice and apply it to every aspect of my life. The resources that we have in this culture...they are tools.  They are essential, but they are not enough. There’s so much we can do to help ourselves. But there’s a Critical Help that only comes beyond ourselves.

The longer I live, the more I understand this.  And the more I understand this, the more time I spend in places like the Seven Dolors Adoration Chapel pictured in this post.

Because at the end of the day, what I need most isn’t principles to solve the problems of my life, but the real presence of The One who created Life itself. Ultimately, my happiness cannot be achieved by the acquisition of information, but by the formation within my soul of love, joy, peace, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and self-control (Galatians 5)

Have you ever considered praying, “God, I don’t want answers...I just want You. I don’t want more information. I want your love to take form in me”?

Anytime you want to make a trip out to the Flint Hills of Kansas, I’d be happy to spend an hour in prayer with you at this Adoration Chapel.  Or you can just DM me your prayer requests.

 



5 Responses

Don DB
Don DB

January 23, 2020

Great point Vaughn I need this too!

OU Rasscalle
OU Rasscalle

January 23, 2020

One of the things I’ve learned through therapy for addiction: “I am my biggest problem. I am my only solution.” I chose to focus my recovery on: I AM. There is only one true I AM. The more I focus on allowing I AM into the picture, or better known as, God, the more my life becomes whole again. To surrender to the fact that in this I AM, “we live, and move, and have our being” takes away a lot of the clutter that led to addiction. Thanks for this article, Vaughn!

Oscar Garcia
Oscar Garcia

January 22, 2020

Thank you for sharing this!

Jeyson
Jeyson

January 22, 2020

Amazing point Vaughn! I appreciate this. I’m 21 and have been learning the importance of reading and self development so this post was a reminder to me to not fully lean on those but to the one who makes all things possible. Thank you.

Tanya
Tanya

January 22, 2020

Great article! I absolutely love this. I think sometimes I forget that prayer and handing my problems over to God and asking Him to help me could be the greatest solution of all. Thanks Vaughn!

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